A beloved friend and loving dog mom, HRC remembers the life of Kitty Monroe

by Meghan Olson

Kitty Monroe was a beloved friend and loving mom to her four small dogs. Monroe, a Black transgender woman, was killed outside Memphis in Cordova, Tennessee, on June 29, 2022. Her death is at least the 19th violent killing of a transgender or gender non-conforming person in 2022. We say “at least” because too often these deaths go unreported — or misreported.

On her Facebook page, Monroe has countless photos of her beloved dogs named Chyna, Milan, Tokyo and London. Her friend wrote in a recent post about three-way FaceTime calls she would join with friends and how dearly she will be missed.

Kitty was a beautiful person; her energy was always light and fun. Her family and friends will miss her, I hope we will hold closer to each other in this dark time. Memphis has lost another beautiful person, but we’ve gained an angel.”

Jasmine Tasaki, Founder and Executive director of WeCareTN

Kitty Monroe should still be alive today to spend time with her beloved friends and four dogs. We must remember her name as we continue the fight against this epidemic of violence on Black transgender women. Her death came too soon, and it is up to us to celebrate the life she lived and do better to protect transgender and gender non-conforming people in our communities.”

Tori Cooper, Human Rights Campaign Director of Community Engagement for the Transgender Justice Initiative

Kitty Monroe’s death is believed to have been the result of domestic violence and she was pronounced dead at the scene when police arrived early on the morning of June 29. Memphis police confirmed that they have a suspect in custody and that the suspect knew Monroe prior to her death.

Tragically, interpersonal violence accounts for a significant number of fatalities against transgender and gender non-conforming people. A report by the HRC Foundation, “An Epidemic of Violence 2021,” found that between 2013 and 2021, approximately two-thirds of transgender and gender non-conforming people with known killers had their lives taken by an acquaintance, friend, family member or intimate partner. Intimate partners specifically accounted for over a fifth (21%) of all known perpetrators – and it is likely this may even be an undercount. To date, the relationship of the victim to the killer is still unknown for a plurality (43%) of all identified cases of fatal violence.

Additionally, according to the 2015 United States Transgender Survey, 54% of transgender and non-binary people have experienced some form of intimate partner violence in their life. Last year, HRC released a report, titled “LGBTQ Intimate Partner Violence and COVID-19,” that details the increased risk of interpersonal violence faced by LGBTQ+ people which has been exacerbated during the COVID-19 pandemic.

At the state level, transgender and gender non-conforming people in Tennessee are not explicitly protected from discrimination in employment, housing, education and public spaces. Tennessee does not include gender identity as a protected characteristic in its hate crimes law. Though we have recently seen some political gains that support and affirm transgender people, we have also faced anti-LGBTQ+ attacks at many levels of government this year. As of this writing, more than 270 anti-LGBTQ+ bills are under consideration in state legislatures across the country, more than 110 of which directly target transgender people.

We must demand better from our elected officials and reject harmful anti-transgender legislation at the local, state and federal levels, while also considering every possible way to make ending this violence a reality. It is clear that fatal violence disproportionately affects transgender women of color, especially Black transgender women. The intersections of racism, transphobia, sexism, biphobia and homophobia conspire to deprive them of necessities to live and thrive, so we must all work together to cultivate acceptance, reject hate and end stigma for everyone in the trans and gender non-conforming community.

More resources:

  • Learn more about the fatal violence cases that HRC is tracking where details are unclear. You may find a list of these cases here.
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