If you are LGBTQ+ or questioning and you are considering coming out to close friends or someone in your family, it’s good to make a plan. What kind of signals are you getting from your friend or family member? Do you have enough information to answer the types of questions they might have about being LGBTQ+? Do you know what you want to say? Do you have support? Is it the right time? Reactions may vary, and you should be prepared. Tips for coming out are available through the Human Rights Campaign.

If you need other information or support, resources include the Trevor Project, It Gets Better, and the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Close friends matter. With 9 in 10 LGBTQ+ youth out to their close friends, young people are relying on close friends to be understanding and supportive. Be brave —be a friend. Learn more about being a friend and supporter through the Gay–Straight Alliance Network.

At the same time, LGBTQ+ youth are twice as likely as their peers to be harassed at school. Make your school safer by being more than a bystander—be a friend to those who are bullied, tell a trusted adult, help someone being bullied get away from a bad situation, and don’t be a bully. Check out the youth section of Stop Bullying.

While these youth are heading towards greater independence, parents still shape and influence their feelings of safety and well–being. Your words and actions are being watched. Do not use demeaning speech about LGBTQ+ people. Be open to your children’s experiences, even if you are unsure or uncomfortable. Stand up for your children if they are harassed or abused due to their identity. Support and information is available at Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays, the Family Acceptance Project, and the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Educators set the tone in their classrooms and influence the climate throughout a school—the hallways, gyms, cafeterias, and study halls. Many LGBTQ+ youth are justly afraid to come out at school because they fear being bullied. Make your classroom safe and inclusive for all. Respond to bullying and name–calling. Consider ways to include LGBTQ+ issues and themes in your curriculum. Great resources are available at Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network, Gay–Straight Alliance Network, and HRC’s Welcoming Schools.

Congregations can be a place where LGBTQ+ youth can feel most accepted and embraced. Sadly, though, because of religious-based homophobic and transphobic messages, clergy and religious people are often the least likely group to be sought out by young people. Religious leaders need to be overt in their literature, their signage and in the pulpit about their embrace of LGBTQ+ people. Make your congregation more open through HRC’s resource, Living Openly in Your Place of Worship. If you’re Christian, see HRC’s weekly preaching and devotional commentary, Out In Scripture, for ideas about how to craft affirming LGBTQ+ messages from the pulpit or other religious resources.

68% of LGBTQ+ youth say they hear negative messages about being LGBTQ+ from elected officials; only 16% hear positive messages from politicians. Change your rhetoric—end attacks on LGBTQ+ people and instead support your LGBTQ+ constituents. Stand strong for legislation that moves equality forward. See HRC's Your Elected Officials.