Coming Out to Your Doctor
One of the keys to good healthcare is being open with your healthcare provider. Doctors, nurses, physician assistants, psychotherapists and other professionals treating you need to know about your sexual orientation and gender identity to give the best care possible. Yet surveys consistently show that many lesbian, gay and bisexual patients aren’t open about their sexual orientation with healthcare providers, and transgender patients often face unique challenges finding competent care.
Tips for Finding and Being Open with Healthcare Providers:
- Ask for referrals. Ask friends or local LGBTQ centers for the names of LGBTQ-friendly healthcare providers. You can also check the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association's Healthcare Provider Directory.
- Inquire by phone. When you call to make an appointment, ask if the practice has any LGBTQ patients. If you’re nervous about asking, remember you don’t have to give your name during that initial call.
- Bring a friend. If you’re uneasy about being open with your healthcare provider, consider asking a trusted friend to come with you.
- Bring it up when you feel most comfortable. Ask your doctor for a few minutes to chat while you’re still fully clothed – maybe even before you’re in the exam room.
- Know what to ask. Learn about the specific healthcare issues facing LGBTQ people.
Learn more in the brochure: Do Ask, Do Tell: Talking to your health care provider about being LGBTQ published by the National LGBTQ Health Education Center.
Tips for Healthcare Providers:
- Educate yourself. Learn about the specific health issues facing LGBTQ people.
- Be sensitive. Make sure you and your staff know which pronouns are appropriate to use when referring to a transgender patient or same-sex couple. Present visual cues. Displaying an HRC equal sign or other LGBTQ-friendly emblem will demonstrate that your office is a safe space for all.
- Revise client forms. Allow options for male/female/transgender and use neutral terms like “partner” or “spouse” rather than “single,” “married” or “divorced.” Use “parent 1” and “parent 2” to include same-sex couples raising children.
- Don’t assume. Avoid making assumptions about a patient based on their appearance. When taking a sexual history, ask, “Are your current or past sexual partners men, women or both?”
- Listen attentively. Be sensitive to the fact that this disclosure may be difficult for your patients.
For more specific information on transgender health issues, please visit The Center of Excellence for Transgender Health at UCSF.