How Online Communities and Resources Help LGBTQ+ Youth Live Authentically

The internet can be an incredible tool for growth and exploration, and that can be especially true for LGBTQ+ youth. According to Pew Research, more than 93% of adults in the U.S. use the internet today, alongside 95% of children and teens aged 3–18. While using the internet is generally widespread in the U.S., LGBTQ+ youth spend an average of 45 minutes more a day online than their non-LGBTQ+ peers. The internet can be a place for LGBTQ+ youth to find peers with shared identities,and receive affirming support from others without judgement. However, parents and caregivers of LGBTQ+ youth may often wonder how to keep their kids safe online from cyberbullying or inappropriate content. It is important for LGBTQ+ youth to practice online safety while still being provided the opportunity to learn, explore and become their authentic self.

Children often use the internet from as early as three years old. They may browse websites to complete school assignments or play online games with their friends. As they get older, time spent online typically increases with the use of smartphones and popular social media apps. The ability to connect with friends online is especially important for LGBTQ+ youth. In fact, 50% of LGBTQ+ youth have at least one close online friend, compared to 19% of non-LGBTQ+ youth. LGBTQ+ youth may additionally go online to find out more about their thoughts and feelings, including to learn more about their sexual orientation and gender identity. While it is important to promote LGBTQ+ inclusive classroom instruction and comprehensive LGBTQ+ inclusive sexual health education, online spaces allow LGBTQ+ youth to have privacy while exploring these topics in depth. They also provide resources for topics such as coming out, affirming mental health support, navigating same-sex relationships or transgender and non-binary identities that educators may not have direct experience with.

Allowing LGBTQ+ youth to explore their identities is vital for them to mature into fully formed adults. LGBTQ+ youth may also use online spaces to connect with peers who have similar experiences. Research suggests that two-thirds of LGBTQ+ youth (62%) may use the Internet to connect with other LGBTQ+ people at any point in a given year. Although positive LGBTQ+ representation has increased recently, LGBTQ+ youth, like LGBTQ+ people in general, are still a minority in wider society. Safe, and affirming online LGBTQ+ spaces allow them to feel like they are part of a community and worthy of respect and celebration. According to HRC’s analysis of the CDC’s Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance survey, 31% of LGBTQ+ youth, 43% of transgender youth and 40% of questioning youth have been bullied at school, compared to 16% of their non-LGBTQ+ peers. Online spaces can be a respite from this harm, letting them know they are not alone. For some, these spaces can even provide a lifeline that they may not be able to find elsewhere.

Parents and caregivers often have valid concerns about their child’s safety online.

While online spaces can reduce feelings of isolation among LGBTQ youth, cyberbullying is sadly still an issue. HRC Foundation observed in the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s 2019 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System that 25% of LGBTQ youth, 33% of LGBTQ youth of color and 34% of transgender youth are bullied online or electronically. It is important for youth to learn internet safety and how to report negative interactions and hate speech to social media apps, school officials or to a parent or guardian.

It’s true that today’s LGBTQ+ youth come out at a younger age than previous generations, which could be attributed to a more accepting society. This may alleviate years of unnecessary stress and anxiety while allowing these young people to build more genuine relationships with family and friends. Coming out at a younger age can also come with challenges, including rejection and harassment during critical years of social and emotional development. In the United States today, there are an estimated 14 million LGBTQ+ adults and 2 million LGBTQ+ youth. Positive online LGBTQ+ spaces allow LGBTQ+ people to find themselves and develop the words to express their own authentic identities. After all, 73% of LGBTQ+ youth say they are more honest online than in the “real world.”

Online LGBTQ+ spaces are wonderful resources for youth to learn about themselves and find like-minded peers. That’s why it is so important to ensure that LGBTQ+ youth practice internet safety and know how to report or flag cyberbullying or hate speech. You may wish to speak to your child about internet safety in a positive, supportive manner that maximizes the benefits of self-exploration while negating the risks of false information, online predators, and cyberbullying. If a child or teen feels supported, they will be more likely to trust you and come to you with safety concerns. They may also feel more comfortable speaking to you about their sexual orientation and gender identity. With support from their parents and caregivers, as well as safe and affirming online spaces, LGBTQ+ youth will have the opportunity to grow authentically into confident LGBTQ+ adults.

What You Can Do

Everyone should educate themselves about LGBTQ+ people and their experiences. Reading this resource is just one of many steps. Here are a few things you can do right now to better support LGBTQ+ youth:

  • Read the HRC guide for how to be an ally to LGBTQ+ people.

  • Work to better understand transgender people and their lives.

  • Read these six points on myths about transgender people.

Parents and caregivers need to affirm their LGBTQ+ children and work to create communities that are inclusive of LGBTQ+ people.

  • Read through HRC’s various resources for parents and caregivers on our Parents for Transgender Equality Council landing page.

  • Work with your school community to bring Welcoming Schools to your district.

  • Encourage your child’s school provide staff training on LGBTQ+ inclusion

  • Join your nearest PFLAG chapter or attend one of their monthly support groups for parents and caregivers with LGBTQ+ children.

  • Encourage your child to connect with other LGBTQ+ youth in safe online spaces, like Q Chat Space or TrevorSpace.

If you are a youth-serving professional, knowing the evidence and practices to create safe and affirming environments is important.

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