The Rise and Fall of the National Organization for Marriage

NOM’s new lie: Gay people are falling over themselves to criticize same-sex parenting

July 10, 2013, by Jeremy Hooper, Guest Contributor

Check out this latest bit of nastiness from the National Organization For Marriage's latest fundraising blast:

NOMMore and more academics and social scientists are speaking out about the good of marriage, especially for children, and the serious problems that kids experience when raised by parents in a same-sex relationship. Increasingly, members of the gay community themselves are becoming active, speaking out against same-sex parenting and the emotional trauma they say same-sex relationships can inflict on children. One prominent scholar has argued that society, egged-on by a biased media, demands that we accept and even celebrate a relationship that intentionally injures a child, depriving her of a mother or father, further victimizing the child who struggles with her emotional loss. This same scholar, who was raised by a lesbian mother and her partner, recently wrote in raw and powerful terms that he considers same-sex parenting to be akin to child abuse. [NOM

Okay, so let's start with the spin about academics.  This is bull!  There is one man, Mark Regnerus, who has worked in tandem with the conservative movement to try to make same-sex parenting seem lacking.  The considerable flaws in Regnerus' work are very well documented; the impetus behind his work is equally well known.  And increasingly, Regnerus is becoming a semi-regular pundit on the conservative media and conference landscape.  At this point, his work convinces no one outside the conservative crowd that both spurred and fostered his misapplied research.

But the much bigger and more offensive lie here is in regard to the supposed army of gay people who are coming out and condemning same-sex parenting.  This is an outrageous lie!  NOM is using one man, Robert Oscar Lopez, to make this case.  This man is a conservative activist who has worked with NOM, who has testified against several marriage bills, who filed an amicus brief supporting Prop 8, and has made anti-LGBT activism the key to his public profile.  Incidentally (or not), Lopez came into public prominence at exactly the same time as Regnerus.  And while Lopez has at some points identified as bisexual (he is married to a woman), he is not a member of "the gay community."  This man—who, for added insight, has equated gay parents with "slavers buying children"—is an activist with a clear point of view and agenda.  He is also one person, not a coalition.

NOM is so desperate to make a case to a world that is so clearly and quickly turning against the anti-LGBT cause that they are now flat-out lying about who is stepping up, what they are saying, and why they are saying it.  It's the same thing the "ex-gay" movement has done for years, citing nameless and faceless thousands who have supposedly "changed" even though the public only sees, knows, hears from, or comes in contact with the same four or five professional speakers who are paid to carry water for this movement.  NOM is taking the same strategy, pretending our country is simply teeming with "gays against gay marriage" and our academic community is chock full of researchers who think gay parents are terrible.  NOM is now deliberately deceiving in hopes that NOM can fill its coffers.