The Rise and Fall of the National Organization for Marriage

NOM defends B&B owner who said gays ‘defile the land’

April 19, 2013, by Jeremy Hooper, Guest Contributor

FACT: Hawaii does not have marriage equality for same-sex couples.

FACT: Diane Cervelli and Taeko Bufford are not married; the lesbian couple lives in California, another state that does not yet recognize same-sex marriages (thanks to orgs like NOM)

FACT: In 2007, the aforementioned couple tried to book a room at Honolulu's Aloha Bed & Breakfast

FACT: The owner of the Aloha Bed & Breakfast admits that she denied a room to Buford and Cervelli and that her denial was due, in full, to the women's sexual orientations.  The owner asked the couple if the attempted booking was for a lesbian pair, and when they answered in the affirmative, the propietor denied them their room.

FACT: In a subsequent Hawaii Civil Rights Commission investigation, the B&B owner admitted that she believes same-sex relationships to be “detestable” and that they “defile our land.” 

FACT: Every last bit of this situation pertains to discrimination based on sexual orientation.  It has nothing to do with marriage and everything to do with nondiscrimination in the area of accomodations.


Now time for some FICTION.  In a new blog post, the National Organization For Marriage is framing the above-recited scenario as if it is some sort of warning sign—a shot across the bow, really—of what is to come if we legalize same-sex marriage.  NOM writes:

NOM Blog Post

[NOM Blog]

You are told these things will never happen?  Really, NOM?  By whom, exactly?  Because if a pro-equality activist is telling you that you deserve the right to discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation, then he or she is quite confused.  This unfettered ability to deny service is not a right that NOM supporters have or deserve—and it is certainly not an ability that hinges on a particular state's marriage equality status!

But yet again, NOM is deliberately misleading its support base.  NOM is pretending like equality activists have been caught in a lie—a lie that bears out everything NOM has been saying.  In doing so, NOM is engendering its supporters to make hostile comments like the following, which is featured (with 34 LIKES form other NOM backed) under the Facebook link to the above post:

Hostile Facebook comment


Don't be fooled: NOM is deliberately stirring up this hornet's nest!  Quite simply, NOM is telling its supporters that they have a right, if not a duty, to discriminate against us.  They've done this with the florist in Washington, the cake baker in Oregon, and numerous other accomidations across this nation.  It is the overplayed and achingly animus-driven game that will ultimately destroy this organization's pretense about being focused only on "protecting marriage."