The Rise and Fall of the National Organization for Marriage

Careful, NOM—your overarching agenda’s showing

April 23, 2012, by Jeremy Hooper, Guest Contributor

To understand the NOM agenda, one need only look at the org's own words.  For instance, check out these three blog posts from the past four days:

NOM; National Organization for Marriage; The UK Christian Institute

NOM; National Organization for Marriage; The UK Christian Institute

NOM; National Organization for Marriage

What's the connection here?  Obviously, not a one has anything to do with the national conversation over same-sex marriage, which NOM claims at its sole focus and fight.  The first post is not even about the United States and is certainly not in any way connected to anything that the LGBT rights movement is seeking.  The second post is all about motherhood, not marriage, and comes from an OPENLY BISEXUAL writer who could not be a stornger supporter of equal rights for all Americans.  The third post is a completely reductive take on two gay men's own personal parenting choices, with NOM bloggers apparently feeling that they not only have a duty to knock children's reading habits in fearful campaign ads but also in the bedrooms of children who are being raised by gays and lesbians. 

Now remember, NOM's one and only fight (at least on the face) involves keeping same-sex marriage unobtainable for as many Americans as possible for as long as the well-paid NOM staffers possibly can.  So why these side conversations about incest, a bisexual parent and her bond with her own mom, and dad-focused children's books?  Well, it's simple, really.  NOM, as we all now know thanks to the insight gleaned from the recent release of previously confidential memos, is not really as limited in its focus as the organization might have you believe.  Behind the curtain, NOM is playing divisive games that would like to "sideswipe" a Democratic president, "drive a wedge" between any number of groups, investigate the children of gay parents, "provoke" gay people to attack, and fully position equality activists as some sort of unruly mob whose own advocacy will lead America towards a whole slew of harms.  Harms like incest.  Or mother-less children's books.  Or broken bonds between The Color Purple author and her daughter.

NOM personalities would surely say that they are just looking out for "traditional family" concerns.  The truth is that this aggresive push for what they would call "traditional family" and against LGBT people's supposedly "radical" families is all part of the National Organization For Marriage's ongoing psychological warfare.  NOM knows it has to flip the script and overhaul this country's growing acceptance, which is why NOM wants everyone to internalize these unrelated ideas and then proceed to either consiciously or subconsciously connect "A" with an unlinked "Q."  It's all about crafting an outlook.  The hope is that by throwing everything but the kitchen sink at the fight, more and more people will mine a threat out of the benign advancement that is marriage equality.

If it offends you, then good—you're paying attention.