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The Joyful Roller-Coaster Ride of Foster Care

November is National Adoption Month, making it the perfect opportunity to learn more about foster care and adoption resources for LGBT individuals and couples. Throughout National Adoption month, HRC will celebrate LGBT families and their stories of adoption, as told in their own words. Do you have an experience to share? Enter now and your story could be featured on HRC Backstory.

This post was contributed by Kischka Bluspiro, Santa Cruz, California.
My partner and I had talked for years about having children, but we didn't really want to go the route of artificial insemination. We felt that we wanted to have a child who was already here and in need of a loving family.
Where we live, Santa Cruz, CA, there is a very liberal view toward gay and lesbian families adopting and being foster parents. In fact, our foster parent classes were held at our local LGBT resource center, in an effort to recruit more LGBT foster parents.
We had planned on taking an older child, but two days after we completed our foster parent licensing, we got a call to take a 9 1/2 month old boy. Overcome with the excitement of it all, we said, "Sure!" Never could we have imagined that after a two-year-long emotional roller-coaster ride, that baby would become our forever son. And one week after his adoption was finalized, we got a call to take his younger brother, who was now 9 1/2 months old himself. And two years later, we were back in court finalizing his adoption.
Our boys have wonderful relationships with paternal grandparents and their 19-year-old half sister, and we love having biological as well as adoptive family in their lives.
We can't imagine having two more wonderful children and would encourage any prospective families to build a family through foster care and adoption.
The All Children – All Families initiative, launched in 2007, promotes policies and practices that welcome LGBT foster and adoptive parents.  The program seeks to enhance LGBT cultural competence among child welfare professionals and educate LGBT people about opportunities to become foster or adoptive parents to waiting children.  To date, ACAF has 50 participating agencies across the country, and has awarded 16 seals of recognition. In September HRC launched a “50 state strategy,” with the goal of securing at least one ACAF-recognized adoption agency dedicated to working with LGBT families in every state.  More information about the initiative can be found at

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